lol so awk when one of your close friends is like “____ thinks you hate them!” (their close friend) and you’re like “Oh my god no why would they think that?! I love her/him” to your friend but you’re really thinking lol ____ is right, i do hate them

sometimes i litreally forget that some people still think i’m straight. like i was hanging out with one of my old friends from high school yesterday and she was like, “So steph, any new guys in your life??” and i just wanted to shout UHM EW LOL you can’t be serious..

but i mean it’s so annoying having to “come out” over and over again lmao. especially cause i’ve explicitly mentioned being gay to her several times before. and she’s obviously choosing to ignore it since she keeps pestering me about boys i guess that me being lesbian secretly makes her uncomfortable? she’s still a good friend but i just want my real sexuality to be acknowledged at the very least. 

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The American Psychological Association’s study on the sexualization of girls found that there was ample evidence to conclude that sexualizing girls “has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, sexuality, and attitudes and beliefs.” Some of these effects include more risky sexual behavior, higher rates of eating disorders, depression, and low self-esteem as well as reduced academic performance. These are the same symptoms found in girls and women who have been sexually assaulted; in terms of effect, then, we appear to be turning out a generation of girls who have been “assaulted” by the very culture they live in. And there is no avoiding the culture. The very act of socialization involves internalizing the cultural norms and attitudes. If the culture is now one big collective perpetrator, then we can assume that an ever-increasing number of girls and women are going to develop emotional, cognitive, and sexual problems as they are socialized into seeing themselves as mere sex objects, and not much else.

Gail Dines, "Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality" (via toxicwinner)

Also this is so random but I feel like Brazilians/pubic hair appearance wouldn’t be nearly as big of a deal as it is right now if it wasn’t for porn lol